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A change is as good as a rest

12 Sunday Feb 2023

Posted by shewrite63 in Art, Health, philosophy, therapy, Warm fuzzy

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comfort, Feng Shui, home, home office, houseplants, hybrid work, light therapy, pets, project management, projects, remote work, winter blues

I no longer have a corner office.

Card table home office desk with office chair and houseplants in the background

I have the guidance of a local Feng Shui consultant to thank for this. In addition to rearranging furniture to face this year’s auspicious directions, this exercise provided me with the opportunity to apply project management skills, and creative patience with space management in our humble home. Since completing a college program in December, I can reclaim some space and rest my overworked brain.

I also got in some major dusting, sweeping and archeological retrieval of cat toys. Although it is the Chinese Year of the Rabbit, it’s always the Year of the Cat around here.

The home office desk layout now faces a large window which provides natural lighting for video conference calls and training sessions on the days I can work from home. We can soon put away the DayLight Lamp that provides light therapy and motivation now that brighter mornings help us emerge from the darkness.

Christmas Cactus house plants on kitchen counter

One can hope that the recommended location for the Christmas Cactus plants will give them the opportunity to bloom now that they are not spending half the day in glaring sunlight in which the others thrive.

Some of us need to stay out of the bright lights and noise while quietly performing our work. We can thrive with weekly check-ins and words of encouragement.

I love our rental home that supports the need for shelter, comfort and creativity. I have a home. That is one of the things to be thankful for as we suffer the news about people worldwide being displaced by territorial, political conflict and natural disasters. Some world events break my heart and trust in mankind.

Thanks for dropping by. Take care of yourself and each other.

T

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Comfort zones

08 Wednesday Jul 2015

Posted by shewrite63 in Health, photography, therapy, Travel, writing

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airplanes, Canada, cats, childhood memories, comfort, novel, photography, reading, tourists, trains, travel

Last summer, I travelled to meet my four older sisters during a pilgrimage of sorts to our Mother’s place of birth. 

Last month, I travelled with my oldest son to mine. Our journey was a combination of planes, trains and automobiles. We got along well for most of the long weekend. We had budgeted well for comfy travel and a three night stay at a lovely Bed and Breakfast.

It had been many years since I spent more than one or two nights in that small town other than to attend weddings or funerals. This time, the occasion was a family reunion being held in an eatery along the main drag.

Prior to catching up with the twenty or more people who attended, my son and I had plans to play tourist for a couple of days. Well, I had plans. He was along for the ride.

The first day, a neighbourhood cat greeted me during his morning tour while I took in fresh air on the B and B’s front porch and waited for the coffee announcement.  I was happy to meet a black feline who reminded me of one of my own back home.  He was a very friendly fellow with all the purring and rubbing but wouldn’t stay still long enough to look at the camera! He had an outdoor cat coat which was much coarser than that of Mr. Snuggles. He also had well-sharpened claws which made it difficult for lap sitting.

cat on porch

Neighbourhood cat drops by the B and B to say hello

I went in to obtain the first cup of fresh-brewed coffee. While sipping it, ahh-ing and admiring the dining room deco,  I looked out the window to see that my new friend was waiting for me. It was cute yet a little creepy…

Black cat waiting outside

Black cat waiting outside. I think he sensed I was a Cat Lady

After breakfast, my son and I went for a walk with intentions of visiting the used book store and a few other places. He sighed when I indicated a plan to take on that lookout tower on the opposite hill.

woman tourist pointing to tower on a distant hill

We shall venture to that tower on the hill this weekend!

I reminisced beside the lazy river that meandered through our old town. In my early days, I used to paddle a canoe up and down that river, exploring the shores and meeting friends.

woman tourist on bridge over river

Reacquainting with the Seguin River

On an impulse decision, I agreed to a 25-minute float plane tour of Georgian Bay rather than a 3-hour boat cruise. My other travel companion was excited about the chance to take to the air.

Stuffed owl beside float plane

Owlie says “We’re going up in THAT?! Kinda small, isn’t it?”

The airways tour was exciting and beautiful, providing a quick aerial view of Georgian Bay. I made sure to snap plenty of pictures with my trusty little camera. This wasn’t the first time I used it to calm my anxieties about flying in a small plane.

Aerial view of Georgian Bay, Parry Sound area

Aerial view of Georgian Bay, Parry Sound area

Rock formations and shallow inlets

Rock formations and shallow inlets

Before we knew it, we were approaching the harbour again.

Salt pile on the shore

Salt pile on the shore

We made a very smooth landing then puttered back to the docks.

approaching docks

Returning to the docks after a smooth landing

The next day was rainy and breezy. We applied appropriate footwear and an extra layer of clothing to walk around the old neighbourhood and climb tower hill. I felt obligated to provide proof to family and old friends that we had visited this landmark.

Lookout tower view from base

Lookout tower view from base

Although I had been up and down this structure many times in my youth, the rain, wind and my weaker knees made it a new experience that day.

Lookout tower view

Lookout tower view of Parry Sound harbour, Georgian Bay

Lookout tower view of Parry Sound

Lookout tower view of Parry Sound harbour, Georgian Bay and the famous CPR rail bridge

You will notice the CPR train trestle appears in many of my touristy photographs.  It was an ever-present landmark looming over our old neighbourhood and spanning the Seguin River valley.  Many others will agree that since we were surrounded by the CPR and CNR routes, trains were a big part of our childhood. During my recent visit, I found the frequent sound of the train whistles comforting and nostalgic. After three days and nights, the charm soon wore off.

Meanwhile, back at the top of the windy lookout tower, we quickly scanned around to confirm there were no forest fires then gingerly made our way back down the see-through metal steps. Conveniently, the Tower Hill museum and gift shop were open that rainy Sunday afternoon.  We only had enough time to purchase souvenirs then go in search of lunch.

I insisted we visit the restaurant that provided inspiration for The Red Hare in The Year of the Rabbit, a novel that took place in a small town very similar to Parry Sound. The bowl of hot wonton soup was very comforting.

wonton soup bowl

Wonton soup bowl

When we returned tired and wet at the Bed and Breakfast, we were greeted by that neighbourhood cat. Once again, I could not convince him to stay still in order to get a good profile pic.

black cat on porch

Phillip the cat welcomes the wet, tired tourists back

Third time’s a charm, he appeared on the morning of our departure, likely to see us off – or request a chin scratch and tummy rub.

Black cat on outdoor carpet

Phillip comes to say farewell, flexing his claws

After a long journey of sitting, waiting and connecting, we arrived home. I was happy to see my other children. Some were happy to see me too.

Black cat on human's bed

Mr. Snuggles making himself comfortable

I have settled back in to my weekly routine. I can reminisce about the visit and the brief family reunion while I sip cool water from my souvenir Macintosh Grande mug graced with the lovely Casson “White Pine” painting.

Coffee mug with Georgian Bay artwork

Coffee mug with Georgian Bay artwork

Thanks for dropping by.  If you’re feeling adventurous to read that novel I mentioned, please visit Smashwords to download a sample of the ebook or eventually purchase a copy. It’s only 99 cents or you can pay what you feel is a fair price. It’s okay, I didn’t write it to make money, only to share a story. If you enjoyed it, mention it to others.

T

Seeking comfort and asking questions

02 Sunday Nov 2014

Posted by shewrite63 in community, Health, photography, reading, therapy, Warm fuzzy, writing

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anxieties, candlelight vigil, children, comfort, expressing, family, kindness, men and women, men's health, mental health, National Forces, respect, teddy bear, teddy bears, toys, writing

The events in Ottawa the past couple of weeks were very saddening. 

Our collective hearts were broken when we lost members of our National Forces on home soil due to the actions of unbalanced individuals.

Security presence increased in downtown Ottawa for a couple of days. Some feared their civil liberties would be at risk.  My own anxiety levels for a loved one rose but remained under control while I listened to calming music, my inner voice of reason, and advice from members of the Forces family.  It was a challenge to stay off Twitter, news sites or listening to the radio for frequent updates.

It was heartwarming during the days that followed to see the sympathies pouring out from around the world for families of the fallen and for their comrades.  It was bittersweet to see so many candles, bouquets and stuffed animals encircling the National War Memorial.

War Memorial Ottawa Oct 25 vigil

War Memorial Ottawa Oct 25 candlelight vigil

I suspected even before attending a candlelight vigil that Remembrance Day will have a new meaning this year in showing respect for those who served in the past and that we will soon support a battle against malevolent, misogynistic forces.

During the following week more disturbing news arose, ending a professional relationship in our national broadcaster and tainting my respect for a charismatic talk show personality.  It was difficult for the management team to sever ties, to risk a lawsuit in defending their decision to uphold values and maintain public trust.

As more facts are revealed and people are divided in this court of public opinion, I find one piece of information disturbing: The accused was advised by a therapist to obtain a teddy bear as a way to deal with anxieties – and even wrote about it in an autobiography.

Why did this person still harbour sadistic and masochistic desires? Why did this person enjoy hitting and punching women during a physical act that should be one of respect, tenderness and trust?

I also feel a sense of unease and embarrassment that I and thousands of others had followed interviews carried by this charismatic individual who held an influential position in the media.

I found a way to turn this around, to support the good deeds in our world.

During my Sunday reflections, I donated to and recognized a male writer who is participating in the Movember challenge.  What I like about this cause to raise awareness and funds for men’s health is that one of their goals is to “seek to achieve results that men and boys are mentally healthy and take action to remain so.”

As a society, we should listen early on if men and boys seek help for mental health issues. In some cultures it may be seen as a form of weakness for males to express feelings.  It’s not.

As a society, we need to revisit the disease of violence, to stop it before it breeds in our homes through domestic abuse, sexual abuse and even distorted into self harm.

In addition to November being the month for men’s health issues with Movember, it’s also Women Abuse Prevention Month. I think the two of these causes can exist in harmony to address the issues of abuse and mental illness.

In my simplistic manner and as a doting parent, I also want to say “Hug your kids.”.  Tell them you love them. Tell them they are smart, they are loved and they have a future in our society. Teach them well through good deeds and actions.

Give them something to hug, to transfer their love, to tell their secrets, to help them feel safe.

I hope police are still using stuffed animals to help children cope with traumatic events.  This practice was very helpful for my family.

purple stuffed rabbit

Small defenders purple rabbit

I know people who have stuffed animals to help with sports pool picks, ease anxieties, or inspire them as characters in stories.

Owlie talking stick

Owlie as the sisters’ talking stick 

I had this one teddy bear since I was five years old.  He listened to my secrets.  He helped me feel brave during stormy nights. He stared blankly when I asked him the reasons for adolescent heartbreaks. He was a silent companion.

Wee girl with teddy bear

Wee girl with teddy bear

Over the years he became worn and weary looking.  He provided inspiration for a character in my novel who also was a comfort to a scared and lonely little girl.

teddy bear and vase of flowers on a chair

My Winnie Pooh Teddy Bear

If you would like to read more, please visit The Year of the Rabbit, a Novel About Fate, Family and Forgiveness.  I published it in 2011 under a pseudonym because I didn’t want to use the same surname of my abuser.  I have since changed my name.   I recently pulled the Print on Demand version because I want to release an updated print edition with the services of a talented editor and artist.  She teases me because I’m taking my time to release it just prior to 2023. That’s okay as I am enjoying her company.  While you are waiting, you can download the eBook version from Smashwords. It contains many themes – domestic abuse being one of them.  Sorry. 

Thanks for dropping by.

T

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